They say that Monday mornings are one of the most depressing days of the week. And I can understand why. A lot of us (actually too many of us) get up every day to head to a job we hate, can’t stand, barely like or just surviving.
I’ve had jobs like that. Most of us have. And honestly, it’s a miserable way to live life.
Or maybe your the stay-at-home parent responsible for the kids, the house, the cars, the schedules and everything else in-between.
Monday mornings don’t look all that good to you either because what you thought was going to be the model family life has turned out to be anything but – Screaming kids, slammed schedules and not enough time to go to the bathroom in peace.
So let me ask you. Are you just surviving? Or are you loving the job you have? When you wake up on Monday’s are you ready to start the day or do you wish you could hide from life and disappear under the covers a little longer?
Are you living the life you want to live? Do you have margin in your life for the things that really matter to you?
If not, what’s keeping you from living the life you love? What are you waiting for? More money, better kids, a lighter schedule, a bigger house or a better job? Maybe your waiting to realize that dream that sits buried in your heart, deep under the rubble of others perception and personal expectation.
In my experience, what often keeps us from really living a life we love is believing the lie that we must have it all planned out before we can make a leap towards that life.
I think that’s why I love this quote from Jillian Michaels:
“It’s not about perfect, it’s about effort. And when you bring that effort every single day, that’s where transformation happens. That’s how change occurs.”
Amen to that Jillian! Because the reality is it takes small steps, over the course of time,to make that a reality. If you want more time with family, what small steps do you need to take?
If you want to make a job change, what small steps do you need to take? If you want more margin and freedom in your schedule, what small steps do you need to take?
If you’re not sure, take some time to write out what is most important to you. Brainstorm with your spouse or a friend. Let them help you in the process, because having someone else to bounce thoughts and ideas off of may be enough to help you get going.
Though honestly, the bottom line about chasing dreams, simplifying your life, finding margin and focusing on what really matters, comes down to this: No More Excuses.
Because honestly, we make them all the time. Often we say “I can’t” when in essence what we really mean is “I won’t.”
But if you really want the things you say you want, you have to stop making excuses and starting taking small steps to walk out the change you want to see. How do we get out of bed everyday to pursue a life we love? How do we stop hiding and start living?
4 Keys to Getting Out of Bed on Monday Morning (or any morning really)
Attitude: My attitude will determine the state of my life and the enjoyment I derive from it. My attitude has a direct affect on the things I will accomplish in a day and the success I discover along the way. My attitude directly affects my ability to be content in the circumstances that surround me and my ability to move through them with grace and integrity. You have to get rid of the ‘stinkin-thinkin.
Thankfulness: When we stop looking at the world and life through the lens of everything we didn’t get, or don’t have and instead look through the lens of thankfulness, all of a sudden some of the worries and stresses of our day falls away. This is especially important when you are going through a tough time or a new season of life. My new motto: Either roll with it or get run over by it. Your choice.
Start Small: Instead of trying to tackle the whole picture right now, be ok to take small steps towards a bigger goal. There is always a small step or two you can take today if you are just willing to do so. Maybe it’s cleaning out the hallway closet. Maybe it’s saying “NO” to that extra thing on the schedule. Maybe it’s not starting on a new project so you can take time with your spouse or the kids. Maybe it’s taking time for yourself and investing in your own health and wellness. Ask this question: What effort can I give today?
Choose To Respond Well: Life is harsh and cruel sometimes. We’ve all experienced it. That unexpected diagnosis, an accident, losing a job, death of a loved one, financial struggle…the list goes on. Often those are events are out of our control. However, we can control how we respond. You may not be able to change the diagnosis, or the money situation or the job situation – but you can change the attitude you approach it with. I’ve had to change my attitude often in tough situations – and we’ve been through some doozy’s. It’s not easy! But we always have a choice.
I love this quote from Jeff Goin’s new Book “The Art of Work – A Proven Path to Discovering What You Were Meant To Do.”
“Life is too short to do what doesn’t matter, to waste your time on things that don’t amount to much.”
How true, and yet how many of us are wasting time on things that don’t matter? “Things” that we will regret giving so much time to later in life.
But can we be that frank with ourselves? Can we finally take ownership for our own lives and not blame it on someone or something else? Unfortunately, many of us will not be that honest with ourselves. But for those that will be that brave and that frank, they will find a life worth living, dreams worth pursuing and Monday Mornings worth getting up for.
Own it! Live it! Walk it Out!
Keeping It Simple,