Give The Benefit of the Doubt (Week #13)

Benefit of the doubt

WELCOME!  I am so glad you are here.  Every Wednesday I will be sharing (1) tip to help inspire you to lead a simpler life.  It won’t be anything hard or something I haven’t tried myself.  Living a simple life is a conscious choice made up of small steps every day.  So here is our small step for today.

 Week #13 – Give The Benefit Of The Doubt

Maybe you wonder how this week’s tip is part of a simple life.   How does giving someone the benefit of the doubt fit?

It’s a great question and one I don’t think we ask often enough.  Let me explain.

Relationships are a part of life and because they are a part of life, they can become complicated and overwhelming just like anything else.  When we work to simplify our life in this area, it’s not about eliminating relationships but working at being healthy in them.

This week’s tip only touches on the tip of the “relationship” iceberg, but I think it’s a good place to start.

How often do we get impatient with those around us? With our kids, with our friends, with strangers out and around our town?  What happens when their actions block our goals?  Or when they may not be moving at the same pace we are?

For example – What happens when we are driving and come up on a slow driver?  What is our reaction? Patience or annoyance?  What if we gave the benefit of the doubt to that person?  What if they are a new driver, learning to navigate a car and the road?  This thought struck me recently because our oldest is learning to drive, and often drivers would come rushing up to the bumper as if magically it would cause her to go faster.  Unfortunately, it only slowed her down more as she nervously tried to figure out the best course of action with an impatient driver on her tail.  It was a wake up call for me and it serves to remind me to be patient.

Or what about that mom with a screaming toddler in the store?  Do we get annoyed and wish she would deal with her child? In fact, maybe we wish she would just leave the store? What if we gave the benefit of the doubt and realize this might just not be a good day.  Who knows the responsibilities and stress she is trying to juggle as she shops for her family.

Or what about that friend who was short with you on the phone or forgot to return  your phone call? Often we jump to the conclusion that they must be mad at us when in fact that might not be the case at all.  What if we gave the benefit of the doubt and followed up a bit later to make sure everything was alright?

Leading a simple life is also about leading a healthy life – including our relationship to other people.  Have there been moments in your life when you were glad you gave someone the benefit of the doubt?

I challenge you to really become attuned to others this week and seek out ways to give someone the benefit of the doubt, and in turn show grace, compassion, kindness and above all…patience.  You never know when you will need “the benefit of the doubt.”

Keeping it Simple,



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4 replies
  1. Emily
    Emily says:

    I think this is sooo important! We especially just never know what someone is going through. I think we need to have a little grace and patience with those around us! Great reminder.

    I am enjoying your Wednesday series! You all ways have a great tidbit to share. 🙂

  2. Bonnie Lyn Smith
    Bonnie Lyn Smith says:

    I just love your heart! Yes! These are such good examples! We all need this reminder! Loved this: “When we work to simplify our life in this area, it’s not about eliminating relationships but working at being healthy in them.” Blessings from “Espressos of Faith”!

    • Victoria Mininger
      Victoria Mininger says:

      You are welcome Vanessa! I thought it was an excellent post and filled with useful tips and strategies. I found it especially helpful since we are in a transitional season of life and doing a fair amount of traveling this summer.


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