Why It’s Ok (and often necessary) To Sit Back and Take A Breather

Taking a breather SimplifiedLife.netIt’s hard to believe that I have been blogging for the last four years.  Since 2014 I have been blogging specifically here at the Simplified Life,  and honestly I love writing and creating in this space.

As a family we have learned so much, in such a short time, about simplifying and getting rid of the clutter in our lives and creating white space and margin in our lives for rest and re-charging.

If you have been following along with our families journey, you know that since the spring of this year, we have gone through a major transition.  Four months later we are still working at re-settling our family into a new home and space.  I had hoped that by this fall we would be settled more permanently again, but things almost always take longer then you hope they will.

In the meantime, life has continued through the busy months of summer with family outings, trips to the library, camping, the mundane (but necessary) preparing of daily meals and getting through the mounds of laundry that seem to multiply like rabbits overnight.

In it all I am working to keep a balance between the busy and maintaining healthy margin in my life. Over the years I have learned that when I have too much on my plate I can quickly become stressed and overwhelmed.  As a wife and a mom, my first priority goes to my family and caring for their needs.  Then comes my work and other pursuits, such as writing and blogging.

I love to write and blog. Anyone that really knows me, knows that to be true.  But no matter how much I love something, each season requires that I ask the hard questions about everything on my plate – does it stay, does it go or do I take a breather for awhile? Obviously my family is staying and so is my work.  But what about the other things on my plate? Where do those things fit in during this season?

The reality is that our family is still very much in the middle of a transition, a transition that does not necessarily have a predictable rhythm to it yet.  I have to admit that I am a gal that loves the daily rhythms of life and when you’re not in your own home or space, it can be hard to find those rhythms.  Nothing is familiar as it once was.

In our old home, I used to have my own office and quiet writing area.  However, in this season I find myself bouncing from the library, to the coffee shop, to our bedroom.   And while I’ve been able to get writing done slowly,  it’s not been easy.

Besides all of that, we are also getting ready to launch into a new homeschooling year with our girls and diving into a brand new home-school co-op community.  We are super excited about that, but I know it comes with its own set of demands and responsibilities.

So, as the old season merges into our new season, I know it’s time to step back and evaluate.

To often I think we don’t evaluate the seasons as they come upon us, often resulting in overloaded schedules and feelings of being overwhelmed and stressed. Just because something was right for one season, doesn’t mean it needs to go into the next one.

Have you ever found yourself there? Going from season to season  and all of a sudden wondering why you’re dragging, feeling over-taxed and over-committed?

Maybe something that was good for one season needs to go, or take a breather for a little while.  Just because something is good, doesn’t mean it’s meant for forever.

It’s ok to say “No” in a new season. It’s ok to say “Wait a minute, I need a breather.”

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Leading a simplified life doesn’t mean you never have a busy season of life…leading a simplified life means honestly evaluating each season as it comes and being brave enough to let things go when their time has come.

That’s why, in this season of transition with my family, I am choosing to step back from my writing and take a breather.  I’m not quitting, I’m not shutting things down, I’m simply stepping back and creating margin in my life for the things that matter most to me in this season.

With the limited writing space and time I do have I plan to focus on a few specific writing projects that have been stirring in me for a long time now.   Hopefully by next year I will have at least one of those writing projects completed and ready to share with you here in this space.

In the meantime,  feel free to read through the past post here on the Simplified Life blog at your leisure.  Also, be sure to stop by and check out our Facebook page, as I may post there from time to time.

When I come back into a season of more active writing, you’ll be the first to know.  I already have plans for updating the site and adding even more content…but all in due season.

Until then I challenge you to take a look at the season you are currently in.  Evaluate the things on your plate and ask this question “Is this particular task, job, commitment…for THIS season?”  If the answer is “Yes” then keep on trucking, but if the answer is “No” then be ok and courageous enough to lay it down.  It doesn’t mean it’s for life, just for now.

Keeping it Simple,





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  1. Ralph
    Ralph says:

    I love this idea of simplified living! And your insights are crisp and practical. Thanks for taking the time to share them so well. I hope the transition is kind to you too, moving can be brutal on the soul.

  2. Melinda
    Melinda says:

    Victoria, Hi! I admire your self awareness, and your priorities! That said, I’m a little disappointed because I just found you! lol
    Hopefully, you’ll get everything down to a routine soon, and be able to write more.

  3. Jennie Goutet
    Jennie Goutet says:

    I am going through the same thing right now, although I don’t expect a prolonged break on blogging. But we are also decluttering and budgeting and I’m making soap (!!!) and then there’s church camp in the Alps that we need to attend (and volunteer at). So writing is back burner for me too. Glad to see you posted. 🙂

  4. Kathy
    Kathy says:

    I love this post, it reminds me of a bit of my own life I blogged about! I think you are so wise, taking a break, focusing on priorities, easing into your new life! Moving is known to be in the top 10 stresses in life. You are moving into self-care, necessary for your well-being and family! I remember reading a book about writing once that spoke about not writing as a way of writing, letting our stories dwell in our deepest souls, until the write/right time!!
    Visiting from Tuesday’s Facebook Christian Women Bloggers! I wrote today on stress/yelling and my own very busy, too busy life during this season!

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